An odd twist
There are a few women that I work with who seemed uncomfortable when I started presenting as female. I got this look like “how dare you pretend to be a woman”.
Then there were the little snippets of gossip that got back to me. “He’s embarrassing himself and the rest of us by playing dressup”. “He’s just doing this for the attention.” Our vendors/customers/coworkers are all going to be freaked out because of him”.
Well for one I am serious about this and now they know it. It’s been almost 2 months and except for my anniversary I have been very consistent in my presentation. Second, I did this for my own well being not for attention (although the attention I get now is welcome because it’s genuine). Third, I have had numerous face to face meetings with out vendors. Some of whom knew me as my guy self. Except for a few surprised looks, they have treated me with respect. I have also been introduced to customers as a woman; just like every other woman in the sales department. They do not look at me like I am some freak.
Now two months later I have started to notice new things. I heard from one friend that people thought I was dressing too nice. They wanted me to dress more casual instead of business like. Well the women in the office seem to be stepping up. I’ve seen more dresses and skirts this month than in the entire 4+ years I have been there. One of my girl friends from work told me at lunch one day that I am making some of the women feel less feminine. I have noticed more eyeliner, mascara, lipstick and styled hair around the office (on the women). How did the guy who was playing dressup become a threat to womanhood?