Closing in on my first year as trans
Oh does time fly. It seems like only a few weeks have passed since I came to terms with “something not being right”. Little did I know at the time what that would ultimately lead to.
Now a good portion of my life is spent as a woman. Professionally and socially. I’m still leading a bi gender lifestyle for the sake of my family. At home I spend a lot of my time dressed androgynously and I have been having little to no problems with that.
A few nice things have happened recently. One of the vendors I deal with often and who visits our offices was a little embarrassed when he asked how I wanted to be addressed. I said for now he can use the more feminine form of my birthname but I would like the feminine pronouns ‘she’ and ‘her’. He said “OK , man…I mean girl!” I laughed and it was ok, he was at least trying. Also a few coworkers who distanced themselves from me after I came out are gradually warming up to me again.
My wife and I have been closer these past few weeks. She seems a bit more comfortable with my being trans. Not totally accepting yet, but not completely freaked out as before. We can talk face to face now and she doesn’t look away. Right now we are working towards getting out of our rental and into a home again.
Today my daughter and I did something I never thought would happen. We changed the brakes on my Honda Accord. Probably the least feminine thing I could think of doing. However, I know that my daughter is going to be able to take care of herself. She’s a girly girl who is also strong and independent. I might not be the most manly of men but I know I have raised her right. The only drawback is that with the dirt under my fingernails I am going to have to put on a darker nail polish for my appointment tomorrow.
On a side note my nipples are sore and my chest is warmer than normal. My friend is telling me that I might be getting some breast growth. I’ve heard that taking anti androgens can cause a small amount of growth. Maybe I can get a nice head start until I decide on starting estrogen. One can only hope.
So far the only that has been bothering me has the goatee I have been sporting during the four day holiday weekend. I have my second electrolysis appointment tomorrow. My electrologist said that my last session could have been more productive had I let me beard grow out a bit. Well this time I am making sure she has a lot to work with. Unfortunately for me the family likes the beard and my dysphoria has kicked into high gear again. I can’t wait to get rid of it. Plus with my long dark hair I kind of look like a picture of Jesus we have hanging on the wall.
Speaking of pictures. Sarah, another blogger who I correspond with through our respective blogs, has inspired me. In one of her last posts she included a picture of herself. I thought long and hard about posting my own picture and finally found the courage to do it. First on Facebook and now here. If anyone wants to comment please be kind.
I am risking a lot by posting this photo and don’t take the decision lightly. I have gone to work as a woman every day for almost 4 months now. I go out to eat and shop in stores as a woman. But until now I haven’t been able to cross the line between my Internet life and my everyday life. I hope that I am able to inspire someone to be themselves. To maybe give them the courage to go out into this world instead of hiding away.